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If I Could Have Anything

(You can use this as a worksheet and record your answers somewhere or just read it to get some ideas or a better understanding of what you really want.)

1. Briefly, describe a situation that you would like to handle better. A situation in which you need to ask someone (for) something or say something to them.

2. How do you handle it now?

3. If you could have anything in this situation and whatever it is would be all right, what would you like for yourself?

Imagine that if you said what you would like everyone would be OK about it. Others may want different things and they want to know what you want for yourself. They might not give you or do what you want, but they are happy for you to say what it is. Nothing bad will happen.

You do need to accept the situation as it is. You might well wish that things could have been different - but they are not. Similarly, you need to accept other people as being how they are, that is part of the situation.

On the other hand, do not limit yourself, what would you really like. For example:

So an example of an answer to this question might be:

But not:


But not:

Try to think about less practical things that you might want. For example:

You may also find it useful to think about your boundaries

It helps to be aware of your boundaries in general, not only in particular situations. You are entitled to have boundaries and to decide for yourself what they are. It is your job to make sure that people know what your boundaries are and to take action when anyone tries to cross your boundaries.

What are your boundaries at work:

What are your boundaries in each of your relationships:

What are your personal boundaries:

So, what would you really like for yourself in the situation you noted at 1.?

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Updated 25th May 2021